15. Giver: He Does Things Without You Having To Ask
It’s great when a partner can do things to make you feel good or to ease your burden without you first having to ask them. A Giver will jump up to the plate and do these things. For example, at the end of the date, he’ll walk you to your car when it’s dark outside, simply because he wants to make sure you’re safe. Another example is how he’ll notice that you’re carrying heavy bags and help you with them. He’s chivalrous and wants to help you in any way he can. That’s the hallmark of a Giver: he’s always looking for opportunities to help people around him.
He’s the type of guy who’ll help an old lady walk across a busy road even though he’s late for a meeting or stop to help a dog on the highway even though it’s dangerous.
His generous spirit can be seen from a mile away! The only downside is that by giving so much of himself, the Giver doesn’t always engage in self-love. He’s likely to neglect himself in order to help others, which is why he needs a partner who’s also a Giver. Then they can spread the love too, and support, each other.
14. Giver: He Goes The Extra Mile
In the same way that a Giver goes the extra mile in his life to help those around him, he’ll also make lots of effort when dating you. This means that he’ll treat you with love and respect from the first day he meets you. He doesn’t just match your good actions, in the way that a Matcher – or person who follows the “tit for tat” way of life – would. A Matcher is the third personality type described by Adam Grant. A Matcher wants everything to be equal and balanced.
As explained on Huffington Post, they like to keep score of things. But the Giver goes above and beyond to make you feel special. This is refreshing in a relationship because you don’t feel like there’s pressure for you to match his efforts or compete with him. You know that his behavior comes from a giving, positive place. Another way in which you can tell that you’re dating a Giver is by checking how he behaves when he’s nice to you. He won’t make you feel like he expects something from you when he drives you home or buys you coffee. He does things simply because he wants to, without there being hidden agendas. If you feel comfortable about receiving his goodness, then you know for sure you’re dealing with a Giver.