25. Taker: He Wants Support But Doesn’t Support You
What’s the point of being in a relationship unless you and your boyfriend can support each other? The Taker doesn’t really consider the support you need. He’s only focused on the support he wants. You can tell you’re dating a Taker early on by seeing how much he relies on you to uplift him, give him pep talks, and help him through rough patches. A bit of a drama magnet, it seems like the Taker’s “rough patch” never seems to end!
The problem with this is that despite your best attempts to support him, it never feels like enough.
The Taker has the right name because he just takes and takes from you, but never returns the favor. The result? You end up giving all your time, energy, and love until your cup is empty. He’s never there to refill it. When you call him because you need him, he’s never there for you. If you see early signs of this when you start dating someone, seriously consider if you should stick around because it’s only going to get worse. This is especially the case if you’re a Giver who gives a lot of love and tries to rescue people because you’ll be drained of all your resources in a flash.
24. Giver: He Listens Up
Listening is a crucial skill that you want in a boyfriend. There’s nothing worse than being with someone who never listens to you, interrupts you, or keeps wanting to own the conversation spotlight. Those are signs of a selfish boyfriend. You can tell your date is definitely a giver if he gives you his undivided attention on dates. Bonus points if he puts his phone away so as not to be disturbed during your quality time together. You don’t want to be with a “phubber”, otherwise known as a phone snubber, who spends more time looking at his phone than talking to you on dates!
As mentioned in Time, “phubbing” is bad for your relationships because it gets in the way of you and your partner connecting. When a guy’s really interested in you, he’ll make you feel special because he’ll be hanging onto your every word. Givers know that it’s not just what they give you, like material gifts, that’s important but also the invisible gifts – listening is an example of an invisible gift that means a lot because it’s a display of love. Although you can’t touch it, it makes you feel valued. There’s nothing more priceless than knowing someone’s giving you their time and attention.